Emotions & Communication- June21
We are already in middle of June, that’s amazing how it goes so quick!
This new months, I would like to share some ideas of experience and exercices about emotions and communication, which were very often mentioned last month .
But first I will start with some explanation on why expressing emotions is just as important as managing them. What to do with our emotions and those we receive from others.
Here are some excerpts from a book " L’expérience émotionnelle dans la relation psychomotrice" from Franco Boscaini and Alexandrine St Cast, which explains the importance and the meaning of our emotions. "The emotional experience connects our external sensations, our internal perceptions, our representations and our actions, and opens us to the knowledge of the other. In their incandescence as well as in their vulnerability and fragility, in their nuances, emotions are carriers of change. They are multiple, interrelated, resonant, and shared. This intuitive knowledge is neither discursive nor rational. Linked to thought (Gibello, 2001), it undoubtedly precedes it (Wallon, 1942). The emotional knowledge is prelogical and does not differentiate yet the concrete from the abstract. (…) In the global approach of the psychomotricity, the emotional experience is favored to facilitate, simultaneously, the knowledge of the objects, of oneself and the others, the expression of oneself and the transformation of the objects in their concrete as imaginary dimensions. The mediators, in particular, serve as a bridge to adapt and reassure the child. Through this intermediary, activity, game or object, he will be able to build a bridge between his imagination and the external reality in order to dare to meet it and express himself. In this way, he will be able to discover a shared reality, where he will be able to deploy his skills to act and learn more easily. (…) It is in this sense that the psychomotor therapist’s intervention will be carried out. Indeed, the emotion oriented towards action originates in the body and, thanks to movement,is translated into behaviors, praxis realizations and words. The body is therefore the space where the subject's link to the world is constructed. This is why psychomotor disorders, by expressing a motor, cognitive or verbal dysfunction in the relationship to the world, are the direct expression of a disorder of the primary, emotional link. From this point of view, the relational body is, by essence, a psychomotor element. It is therefore impossible to conceive of psychomotor care without considering the essential role of emotion. (…) Emotions can be considered as a body modality that is both internal and common. They allow us to live together, to share our experiences, to be present and to respond, in the relationship, by processes calling upon implicit non-semantic categories. " My synthesis would be: the emotions are there to teach us more about ourselves, to guide us and to enter in relation with the external world, from the moment we listen to them, we manage them and we use them as supports. However, listening to and recognizing our emotions implies first of all to know ourselvesand to be able to dissociate them: to know our limits, our needs, to listen to our body. Emotions should not be experienced as worrying but as guiding. Inspiring, isn't it? 😂 After this long reading, here are some tools to guide your children in the discovery and management of their emotions. They are good supports of communication about their feeling.
- Loto of emotions and book of activities (in french): PDF below
- Book English: the colour monsters - French : la couleur des émotions by Anna Llenas
- Spot the match: lego emotions https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/181621797459620020/
For children who can write:
- Fill text in BD which are full of emotions, you will find a lot on internet, for example: https://www.dargaud.com/actualites/atelier-jeunesse-devenir-scenariste-de-bd-photo
- Self confidence book to find on several online shop.
Film: Pixar => Inside Out, perfect to watch with all the family! Activity: Theater, mime game, Pictionary game, Emotion board game free to download on twinkle: https://www.twinkl.co.uk/resource/t-t-253148-emotions-board-game… !
To help your child to manage his emotion and use them, you can print the Emotiometre poster https://ecolededemain.files.wordpress.com/2015/09/emotiomc3a8tre.png
(created by Stephanie Fontdecaba). Ask your child where he/she stands in his/her emotions. It is ok to have emotions, the most important is to understand what to do with them to find an issue.
For your information I do not get any benefit from sharing these documents. I thank www.creativemumandco.com for sharing her work on emotions book! You can have a look at her lovely children's accessory work on her instagram account @littlecousette.
I hope you will enjoy to explore more about emotions with your child and maybe for yourself as well! 😄
(PDF available below)